(Extracts from R.J. Leider, 1994, "Life Skills")
The model of change and growth used in Life Skills is based on observations and studies of highly effective people.
Life skills focuses on four "learnings":
- How to deal with change
- How to discover purpose
- How to create a personal vision
- How to balance daily priorities and tradeoffs.
1. DEAL WITH CHANGE
All of us, to varying extents, are limited by our fears - of criticism, of rejection, of betrayal, of failure, of success. We lack trust in ourselves. We often doubt our own good judgment in the face of contrary opinions from others. Also, we often lack the trust in others that is necessary to create a high-performing team or organization. Fear is choice. We can "rescript" ourselves to reduce fear and embrace change.
2. DISCOVER PURPOSE
Discovering a sense of purpose is crucial to making a difference in our work and our lives. Self-knowledge, however, does not come easy. Some people, manage to travel quite happily through life without ever knowing themselves. Whether because of luck, or good intuitive timing, they do very well. However, even those people, to their dismay, wake up at some point asking, "Who am I?", "Why am I here?", "Where am I going?". The best leadership today is based on fostering a guiding purpose in others and clarifying the organization's purpose.
3. CREATE A PERSONAL VISION
A clear vision sets in motion the factors and forces to create the future. A familiar example is the athlete whose performance is limited by an invisible barrier, as the four minute mile once was. With a clear vision that breaks through previous limits, the athlete reprograms the belief system and consequently achieves superior performance. This power of creating a vision is critical to individuals and organizations today.
4. TRACK DAILY PRIORITIES
Life skills helps you develop a solid growth plan that accommodates change, yet endures. You assemble a base of information about yourself in a logically organized, summarized plan, for ready referral whenever you need it.
Your Life Growth Plan, when used consistently, will have a profound and lasting impact. The art of self-leadership can be learned like any other skill.
The principles aren't subtle or complex, but they cover the core aspects of growth and self management. The principles are as follows:
You must understand your real priorities and tradeoffs or you risk wasting your most valuable currency - time.
The quality and depth of your self-worth is a key indicator; you must be clear about your values because they reveal who you really are.
Living with vitality is the bottom line; vitality comes from integrity and integrity comes from one simple act: keeping the promises you make to yourself.
Living and working from a clear sense of purpose creates enduring meaning and satisfaction.
To be fulfilled in your work, it is crucial to connect talents with interests and passions in an environment that fits your values.
Living from a clear sense of purpose requires making consistent contact with a power greater than yourself.
The key to health is doing little things consistently; life energy is built or destroyed by many individual actions that become your pattern.
Recognize your talents to discover if you are fully using them. You become energized when your talents and work align.
Establish relationship and support systems that can carry you through the various transitions of work/life.
Decide by which criteria you want to measure success.
Change, though often a struggle, can be an opportunity to grow, to strengthen vision, and to enhance performance. If you understand and apply the Life Skills principles, you can experience changes as growth.
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